Glory vs. Comfort

Do you live for God’s glory or your own comfort?

I think my pastor posed that question one time in a sermon. It hangs on my refrigerator but it’s been there so long I honestly can’t remember where it came from.

It hit me after an incident with one of my kiddos and the subsequent conversation about it with another mama, that too many of us live not only for our own comfort, but for our children’s comfort as well. An incident had happened with several of the girls on one of my daughter’s sports teams. And yes, my daughter was one of them. As a parent, we often don’t want to see or acknowledge our kids as sinners. I often pray that my child’s sin will find them out, though. Not because I like dealing with sin, because I don’t, but because I want it to be found out now when hopefully the consequences aren’t that deep or that long-lasting and I can help them navigate through the situation. But honestly, as a mama, I don’t always want to navigate the situation. I don’t always want to know the wrong they’ve done. Most of us don’t want to have the sins of our children reflect negatively upon us either. And we’d like our kids to be comfortable and avoid a lot of strife. I listened to the mom who told me that her prayer that day had been for her daughter NOT to be benched over the incident. There’s that comfort thing creeping up again.

This is a good mama. This is a good family.

And, she had given her daughter sound advice in this situation. She told her daughter to tell the truth and to face the consequences as they came…but her mama prayer was for her daughter’s comfort; that she would be able to play in the final game.

 That morning I had shared a verse with my daughter from Psalms:


I am by no means saying I am a better mama than my friend. I am not a perfect parent with the perfect answers and the perfect prayers. I am perfectly flawed just like the next person. And my kiddos are no angels either.  I wanted to make sure that she really had a broken and contrite heart because she had done the wrong thing and NOT because she was wanting to avoid being benched.

This was the verse I felt led to share and the lesson that I wanted to impart in this situation. My daughter is usually compassionate and she had already expressed remorse and compassion in this situation, but I wanted to drive the point further as she left that morning to talk with her coach. My prayer was not for her to be comfortable or for either of us to avoid missing this teachable moment. It was for her heart attitude. In a world where we like to blame others, justify our actions, and pretty much suffer no consequences or own up to our actions, I think I may have actually seized the teachable moment in the uncomfortable.

Of course, I would’ve liked comfort rather than having dealt with the situation at all. I would have preferred not to have been embarrassed as a parent or talked about as a family. Yes, I would’ve liked to avoid the uncomfortable, but that’s not really what we’re called to. As believers, as one who wants to be conformed to the likeness of Christ and to bring God glory, sometimes it’s going to be uncomfortable.

I didn’t set out consciously to choose God’s glory and to live for God’s glory in that moment. And maybe that’s the beauty of it. If God is conforming me to the likeness of His Son, the Spirit is working in me. The prayers that I pray about reflecting God’s glory in my daily walk are hopefully becoming more ‘habit’ and who I am, rather than conscious decisions that I make. And maybe, just maybe, these are the parts of my life that will be caught by my children; God’s glory over comfortable.

Written by
MVF Women’s Ministry Director
Jodi Ross


Double Trouble

2 Pair Pink BootiesIdentical. Twin. Girls.  I feel like I could end my blog post here and let you all fill in the rest.  You can imagine the lessons and take-aways we have learned over the last 7 years.  And you would probably be right at each imagination.

However a few specific anecdotes come to mind this evening… As toddlers, they would look at their own reflection in the mirror and start to converse with who they thought was their twin sister.  After all, they always talk to someone who… looks exactly like them.  Even as I type this, I’m lost in correct pronoun usage!

Or for example, up until the time they turned 5, they would mis-identify each other in pictures.  Saying, “That’s me!” while pointing to her twin sister.

All the while, still not realizing that they look alike.  Asking VBS teachers in shocked tones “how did you know we were sisters?!”  Or explaining to me that they looked alike because they were both wearing a dress that day.

Having identical twins is an interesting study in “Identity.”  Realizing that an infinite God, created two people so much alike and yet so very different.

In VBS this last week, over 200 children learned that they were “Designed by God, Built for a Purpose.”  I absolutely loved that theme.  It’s one that I have been chewing on and dwelling on.  It not only carries so much hope and promise for our kiddos, but it can inform how we nurture the children in our homes, the children in our churches, the children in our neighborhoods, the children in our schools….

So as summer break is in full swing (and I have WAY more time with the kids), I have been asking myself this question.

How can I raise my kids in such a way that their identity lies in a Creator God who has a grand purpose for their lives?  Big question, I know.  I’m still working through it… but here are few areas I’m focusing on:

  • Not making every request (demand) for obedience being about what “Mom” wants.  Instead pointing them to the bigger blessing of living life God’s way.  🙂
  • Asking my kids more questions, and seeing if they can arrive at the correct answer or correct solution.
  • Figuring out what areas my kids are naturally gifted in, and personally getting excited about those things.
  • Realizing the areas where they struggle, and finding creative ways to encourage them.
  • Asking my kids to identify ways they have seen God at work – maybe through a storm, a sunrise, or an answer to prayer.

These are just a few, but frankly those few are keeping me plenty busy.  I am working through this just like I know many of you are, so please feel free to add to my list!  I would love to hear your ideas too!

MVF Kid’s Director
Kelly Curtis

Eyes Glazed Over

A couple of weeks ago, I had the pleasure of visiting my family and my wife’s family in Houston and introducing them to our four month old daughter, Evangeline. On Sunday we attended church with them (luckily, they all attend the same one) and I was excited to visit their youth area and see what a regular Sunday morning looked like for them.  I look forward to visiting other churches because it’s rare for me not to have responsibilities on a Sunday morning, and it’s also great to glean new ideas to make my own ministry more successful back at home.

BoredMrBeanI was able to take a tour of their youth department and get lots of ideas on things that we might be able to do in our new building. However, one thing that caught my eye was the students and their behavior in Sunday School. Don’t get me wrong… they weren’t bad or disrespectful, and the leader was doing a great job teaching, but the students just seemed… like their minds were somewhere else.  We’ve all seen that glazed-eye look, and have probably sported it ourselves during a message or two on Sunday mornings.  Can I get an amen?  (Sorry, Dad.)

Initially, it didn’t strike me as significant or bother me; after all, it was Sunday morning before noon and they WERE middle and high school students. But the more the I processed it, the more I wondered if our students look at me that way on a regular basis… eyes glazed over and not engaged. Then I thought about how we, as adults, look to the speaker on Sunday mornings because this can’t be a youth-only problem. I know even the best speaker in the world armed with the best lessons, illustrations, and tricks to keep students engaged will still see the “bored face” from time to time. I came to the conclusion that no matter how good the material or the speaker is, it comes down to the individuals who are listening and whether or not they value what’s being taught.

In ministry, it’s easy to see the reality of the battle that Christians face on a daily basis, and it’s a privilege to help people fight it every day. But even pastors are susceptible to that glazed-eye look. It’s so easy to go about our days overwhelmed and forgetting that Christ should be at the center of all things when we have distractions like bills, deadlines, dates, or relationship issues. It’s hard to keep God at the center of our thoughts.  As an adult, it’s easy for me to wrap my mind around the fact that all the different areas of my life are connected to each other: my relationship with God, my job, my family, the Tuesday morning breakfast at Strasburg High School, the baseball game in Bennett, the quick trip to King Soopers. But so many students don’t have a grasp on this concept yet… everything is compartmentalized. School is separate from home which is separate from church which is separate from friends, and so on.

I believe that the American church consistently fails to realize how real God is. I don’t mean to imply that we don’t believe in God, but I would submit that we don’t often think that God takes part in our every day, normal lives. I think this is true for just about every teenager I know. The more I’ve talked to our students and heard what they’re concerned about, what their days look like, and the things that they think, the more I understand that this whole “God thing” is just one part of their lives. Not something that is their life.

Ephesians 6:10-17 tells us about the armor of God. And it doesn’t tell us to sometimes put the armor of God on, or to wear it every other day, or even on Sundays from 9am  to 12:30pm.  No, it tells us that we should put it on so that we maybe ready for the day of evil when it comes, that we might be able to stand our ground. Older believers know that evil can come from any direction at any time and that we should have our armor on at ALL TIMES. It’s how we can hold on to the truth and reality of God and His plan for our lives so we don’t believe the lies of Satan. It’s so much easier to keep on your armor when God is at the center of your life, not just a part of it.

If we don’t live our lives with God at the center, keeping our armor ready, we will become distracted. Slowly, our eyes will glaze over and we’ll become more worried about how we look, what others think, our pay check, our grades, our health, or our family.  And trust me, these are all areas that Satan loves to whisper lies into; areas that can be twisted and made hard and turned in on themselves.Armor of God But if we make sure Christ is the glass that we view every part of our life through, then suddenly, the message on Sunday morning isn’t boring… and even that trip to King Soopers becomes a little more meaningful. The things learned on Sunday at church or Wednesday at Youth Group mean so much more because they touch every part of our lives and strengthen our armor as we learn and grow. Our family is expanded and there is grace. Bills become something we trust God to provide for. Jobs become an entrance point for us to love others. King Soopers becomes a place we can encourage someone we bump into… and so much more!

But the key is keeping God at the center, and using our armor to keep him there.

My challenge for us all, adults and students alike, is to remember that this “God thing” is not just an every-now-and-then or a most-of-the-time thing. But instead, that we realize how critical keeping our eyes on Jesus is, in every area of our lives. If you’re an adult with a teenage son or daughter, I encourage you to help them realize that their relationship with God isn’t something that should be compartmentalized or ignored. Share your wisdom with them, and be compassionate as they discover some of the lessons you’ve already learned, so that they can begin to keep God at the center of their life as well and be ready when the attacks come.

– by Hunter Headley
MVF Youth Pastor

It’s Not About the Number

WELCOME TO OUR HOME! Come in and let me show you God’s love, and how the resurrection that we are celebrating today changes lives!”

That is the message that 1,212 people on the Eastern Corridor of Colorado heard Easter weekend when they came to services at MVF. It was incredibly inspiring to be serving with such an exceptional group that were willing to give of their time to set up a welcoming environment, park, greet, refresh, inform, direct, love, teach, and worship with their friends and neighbors. It was very evident that fellowship has nothing to do with what town you are from, your background, your bank account or that our church meets in a school. Fellowship has to do with genuine smiles and conversations, concern for others and everyone coming together to celebrate the Good News that Jesus went to the cross for us and three days later beat death!

This weekend was not about the number 1,212. It was about welcoming our community into our house and showing them how God has changed our lives and those of our families. How broken marriages, addiction, hate, anxiety, and abuse can be transformed and healed through Christ. How we are not a family of perfect people, but instead a group of sinners that meet each week to learn about love, grace and forgiveness. It was about the father that filled out a connection card because his daughter wants to be baptized, and the young lady that wanted to be contacted because she had questions about the message.

Our community sees the changes in our members’ lives, and they want it for themselves. This weekend was just a glimpse of what Sundays will look like when we move into the new building. Sure, some will come out of curiosity and that’s ok. Others will come because they are seeking. Are we ready to welcome them into our house?

Romans 12:9-13 (The Message translation) says : “Love from the center of who you are; don’t fake it. Run for dear life from evil; hold on for dear life to good. Be good friends who love deeply; practice playing second fiddle. Don’t burn out; keep yourselves fueled and aflame. Be alert servants of the Master, cheerfully expectant. Don’t quit in hard times; pray all the harder. Help needy Christians; be inventive in hospitality.” I see these attributes in our Church, and I’m thankful to be able to serve our community with you!

Written by Volunteer Coordinator
Nikole Armbrust

One Thing…

The family and I had the luxury of spending a few days on the western slope this past week visiting friends of ours that we’ve known since Aimee and I were teenagers. The husband has been in ministry on and off over the past 20 years, and was recently hired as the worship pastor for a church in Delta, Colorado. This new job was something that the husband has been wanting for many years but it meant moving away from family, friends, church family, and activities/clubs that the children were involved in. The wife was finding it extremely difficult to adjust to having moved so far away from the life that they had come to know and love in the city. I believe she’d even say that she was angry with the move and how it was affecting her and one of their girls.

Fast forward a year and a half, and the wife is sharing with me and Aimee some encouraging counsel she received from another friend. This friend of hers simply told her to find one thing to be thankful for each day. On the surface this seems trivial but she continued to share how it had truly been changing the way that she regarded their situation and how it had actually helped her to appreciate this new season in life.

Are we thankful in ALL situations? What about those who’ve lost their marriage, their job, or their home? How about those of us who are grieving the loss of a family member, hae received a challenging health diagnosis, or are struggling with infertility? Even in the midst of such awful situations, we still have much to be thankful for.

Track with me as I share the story of a man who had every right to be embittered and ungrateful—but wasn’t:

At any moment the guards would come to his cell to bring him before the governor for his final trial. The cold, hard floor was where he laid his head each night, not knowing if it would be his last. Every move was hindered and challenged by the cumbersome chains connected to the manacles that mercilessly dug into his ankles and wrists.  Living in solitude, beaten multiple times, and unjustly accused, this man would had every reason to complain about how his life was going, but the words from his mouth were instead filled with thanksgiving and praise.

The man was the Apostle Paul—someone who mastered the art of thanksgiving, even when faced with extreme hardship and tribulation. Even as he was imprisoned in Rome, Paul wrote, “Sing and make music from your heart to the Lord, always giving thanks to God the Father, in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ.” (Ephesians 5:19b-20, NIV)

Being thankful was an everyday occurrence for the Apostle Paul! One that shaped his thoughts and actions, making him a joyful person in all circumstances. This is something we can all work on: being thankful regardless of the situation!

Here are a few things I think we can be thankful for…


It’s entirely natural to try and avoid situations that are difficult or affect me in a negative way;  however, I will face adversity multiple times throughout my life. It’s during the times I face trials and persecution that Christ said I will not be separated from His love (Romans 8:35). Not only does He promise to love me, but I will also be drawn closer to Him: “Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters, when you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance. Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything.” (James 1:2-4, NIV)

God knows everything I’m facing and desires for me to cultivate a spirit of thankfulness,  even during adversity and heartaches, “giving thanks in all circumstances; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus.” (1 Thessalonians 5:18, NIV)


At times, I catch myself wondering whether I have enough—or if life would be better if I just had… (fill in the blank). However, it’s truly liberating to just be thankful for what God has given me!  After all, everything I have is from Him. “His divine power has given us everything we need for a godly life” (2 Peter 1:3a, NIV)  “Wealth and honor come from you; you are the ruler of all things.” (1 Chronicles 29:12, NIV) This list could include, but is certainly not limited to a home, clothes, work, transportation, health, a loving pet, etc.


How often do I take the relationships in my life for granted? Or get angry because someone isn’t doing exactly what I expect them to? Instead, I need to be thankful for my friends, family, spouse, children, and relatives… and for those relationships that have carried me through trials. I’m also thankful for the relationships that have challenged me and held me accountable. I should continually let the people in my life know I appreciate them and am thankful for the difference they make in my life, “I thank God every time I remember you.” (Philippians 1:3, NIV)

God’s power in your life

I simply can’t navigate this world without God’s power, and there is nothing I can do and nothing that happens to me without God allowing it. “Now to him who is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine, according to his power that is at work within us…” (Ephesians 3:20). ”This is what the Lord says — the Creator of the heavens, who stretches them out, who spreads out the earth with all that springs from it, who gives breath to its people, and life to those who walk on it…” (Isaiah 42:5, NIV)


This one is a no-brainer and should be on my lips daily! To be granted salvation through Christ’s sacrifice, especially because it’s undeserved, is the ultimate gift. How can I not be thankful when God has given me so much to look forward to?!  “…and giving joyful thanks to the Father, who has qualified you to share in the inheritance of his holy people in the kingdom of light.” (Colossians 1:12, NIV)

So, I’m committing to finding one thing to be thankful for each day, no matter what my circumstances are.  Are you with me?

Missions & Outreach Pastor Ryan Dwyer

Retro-Reflectivity and Other Important Science-y Terms That Teach Me About God And Make Me Sound Smart

Back when our boys were young, we used to save all winter to pay for a family pass to Elitch Gardens. We’d go several times a month in the middle of the week when it wasn’t so crowded. Lots of sunburned shoulders and noses later, I have fond memories of those hot summers waiting in line with my family and trying to convince our youngest son Trooper to finally ride a roller coaster. There’s also a not-so-fond, green-tinted memory of my discovery that I could no longer handle rides that spin. (Note to friends: Never get on a Teacup ride with Donn Headley!)

I have also never forgotten the time we were waiting in a line when I happened to notice a woman’s t-shirt ahead of us. She was leaning on the railing and I could see the front of her shirt; it had a picture of the moon on it and wording across it that read, “Be the Moon.”FullMoon2010

I immediately rolled my eyes, categorizing it as a new-agey shirt and pointed it out to Donn. Then she turned around. The same picture and wording was on the back, but it read, “Be the moon… reflect the Son.” I ended up talking to the woman and telling her how much I liked her shirt and how I had initially misjudged it.

That phrase, “Be the Moon… Reflect the Son” never left me. I remembered from science class that moonlight is really just reflected sunlight. What an easy way to remind ourselves that we are supposed to reflect God’s image to those we come into contact with. It was God’s plan from the beginning that we look like him… he tells us in the very first chapter of the very first book of the bible: Then God said, “Let us make mankind in our image, in our likeness… (Genesis 1:26)

Not only are we made in God’s physical image, we are supposed to look like him in how we live and treat those around us too… our spiritual image should reflect him. If you’re like me and can more readily point out your flaws than your strengths, the fact that we should be living our lives in a god-imitating way… well, it’s daunting at best… and more often than not, terrifying when I see how short I fall on a daily basis. Don’t get me wrong, I’m good on all the big stuff; I haven’t murdered anyone or anything like that. But…

It’s the little things that get me. Those ugly thoughts that come to me that I (hopefully) don’t speak aloud, the “Bless Her Heart” kind of gossip that I pass off as Christian concern, the little white lie to the police officer who pulled me over for speeding, the slightly disrespectful way I speak to my parents, the too-friendly relationship with a member of the opposite sex at work, the old friend I refuse to reconcile with… all of these things knock the shine off of my reflection of God.

I can’t reflect God on my own, even though I’m made in his image. I can try to say the right words and do the right things, but they always fall short. Y’all, I’m so low sometimes I can’t even picture what the full image and likeness of God looks like because mine has been so obscured by my sin! It’s during these times that I need to remind myself that I have the perfect picture of someone truly reflecting the image of God: it’s Jesus. Be the moon… reflect the Son makes a little more sense now.

It was actually difficult to pick from the list of verses that tell me to imitate Christ, but I’ve settled on these described in 1 Peter (Hang with me… it’s worth it!) :


As I was doing some research for this posting, I came across a phenomenon called Retro-Reflectivity. Retro-reflectivity refers to the reflection of light back towards the source from which it originates. (Do I sound smart yet?) So, basically, this is telling me that if I imitate or reflect Christ in my every day life, it shoots the glory right back to God,*** which is where all glory originated from in the first place and where all glory should be returned.

I can worship God with the very way I strive to live my life. And I have a book full of examples to imitate. I have been given everything I need (2 Peter 1:3; Click the Link… don’t be lazy!), in the midst of my imperfection, to be like Christ and give glory to the Father. Which is pretty much the point of everything, right?

***Because, Science.

You’re Invited to Dinner

table7I can’t count the number of times that I’ve had people ask me what I do all week!  It’s always a fun question to answer, because I wear quite a few different hats at any given point.  But as a worship arts pastor one of the most enjoyable projects I have during the week is planning and preparing for our Sunday morning worship experiences.  The only thing I enjoy more would be actually worshipping with the MVF congregation! There are hours and hours that go into just the planning portion: praying over what different aspects will be encouraging to our people, giving appropriate opportunities for passionate praise, allowing quiet moments of confession and communion, researching and choosing scriptures that reinforce the prayers that we’re going to sing, and identifying subtle nuances in content and tying them together while also paying attention to musical style and key changes to remove as many distractions as possible.  On top of my personal preparation, I also have 6 to 7 other musicians that I’m responsible for resourcing.  The hours in a week that go into communicating, practicing for rehearsal, actually rehearsing, then polishing anything that needs attention between rehearsal and a full run-through on Sunday morning…well, in many respects this process of planning and preparation could be likened to someone passionately preparing an elaborate five course meal for an intimate group of friends they value dearly.

Planning & Preparation…it’s such a huge part of life.  Whether the task at hand is substantial or insignificant, planning and preparation permeates everything we do.  We wash clothes and dishes, buy groceries, make sack lunches for our kids, keep a full tank of gas in the car, take showers, get dressed, try to eat healthy, maintain our equipment to bring in a harvest, get that presentation ready for the board meeting, write a blog post, and the list could go on and on.  Everything we do or don’t do in life points to some aspect of planning and preparation (or lack thereof). 

Not only is it a part of everything we do, but these are often determining factors for how well we do something.  In general terms, if you’re planning for success in life, chances are you’re taking the time to count the costs and make the necessary adjustments to meet your goals.  Even scripture recognizes this as a logical approach. 

“Suppose one of you wants to build a tower. Won’t you first sit down and estimate the cost to see if you have enough money to complete it?” Luke 14:28

Now, admittedly, some people are just floating.  They’re just taking life as it comes, and they shouldn’t expect anything much different than what they’re experiencing this very moment.  (I’m going to assume for the purposes of this post that you’re not one of those people!)

So what does this have to do with you? Why am I writing a blog post about planning &
preparation?  Well, I’ll just be right up front and tell you. The reason I’m writing this post is in order to challenge you to plan for something different.  To prepare for something different!

I’m personally extending an invitation to dinner and I’m asking you to make this meal a priority.  I’m asking that you plan and prepare to attend.  We have two meals planned this week.  One starts promptly at 9am and the other starts promptly at 10:45am antitusquoted they’re both on Sunday morning.  I, along with my team, am planning a full course meal that’s going to take us all week to prepare.  Every aspect of the experience will be intentional from start to finish.  So my question is…what will you do this week to plan and prepare for your arrival to this meal?  Will you arrive late, making all the same excuses you made last week with no intention of planning or preparing for anything different?  Or will you arrive on time like you would to any other event you plan to attend?

Proverbs 16:3 says,“Commit to the Lord whatever you do, and he will establish your plans.”

Commit to the Lord that this Sunday (and subsequent Sundays) you’re going to arrive on time and be as prepared as possible to worship the God of the universe.  Ask Him to establish your plans, and commit to the necessary changes.  Our team can’t wait to host you!